5 Beliefs That Will Ensure You Never Achieve Success With Melanie Benson Strick

Each and every successful entrepreneur I’ve ever worked with has one thing that sets them apart from everyone else. They have a set of beliefs that cause them to be willing to do the right things at the right time to achieve that next level of success.

Contrast that with a growing pool of people who are stuck, frustrated and constantly overwhelmed in their pursuit of success. Many well-meaning, passionate people have all the right ideas and no shortage of talent – but when it comes to profiting from their great work they feel perpetually trapped causing them to barely get by.

Its like there is a hidden barrier between where they are now and where they want to be. This barrier is their belief system. The struggling entrepreneurs belief system causes them to work way harder than they need to, make poor choices, procrastinate endlessly on important tasks, and stress out about money.

Here are five of the most common belief systems that cause smart, capable, heart-based entrepreneurs to fall short of their potential and feel hopelessly stuck (and miss the opportunity to prosper in their business.)

1. The amount of money available on this planet is limited.

If you believe on some level that there is a limited amount of money that can be accessed then on some level you will hold yourself back from accumulating wealth. Dan Kennedy in his book, “No B.S. Wealth Attraction for Entrepreneurs” refers to this limiting belief as Wealth Inhibition.

Money is energy. Wealth is achieved by directing the flow of energy repeatedly towards the life, impact and dreams you have. An energetic alignment with unlimited wealth potential generates more wealth. But, on the other hand, if you have a belief that acquiring more money will ultimately lead to someone else’s demise, then you will unconsciously hold yourself back. Most of us don’t really want to negatively affect another person so you will inhibit your success by only doing enough to keep yourself from financial ruin.

2. I have to work hard to get ahead.

Ingrained deep inside our culture is the belief that we have to work hard to become successful. From our mid-west roots to the corporate upbringing that many of us started with, sacrificing our life to get more work done is a persistent belief holding many entrepreneurs hostage. The truth is that wealth is created from leverage – not more work.

You may achieve your first level of financial success with investing 100’s of hours a week on the grindstone. But you will not be able to continue to work that hard to achieve your next level of success. When you discover easy ways to leverage your time, money and resources you will see that you can attract 10 times the level of success you have now with a few simple tweaks.

3. Big success changes people for the worst.

We’ve all seen people we know turn into ugly monsters when they start making the big bucks. All of a sudden they are “too good for us” or become so money-hungry they hurt others in their obsession to make more money. But I’ve also seen just as many people do good things with their wealth.

Wealth is only a tool. How you use that tool is not dictated by how much money you have but by your values system. If you have unconsciously made a decision to avoid becoming wealthy so you aren’t “like them” then you are sabotaging your success potential. It’s time to unhook wealth and evil as partners and make a decision to do good things with the wealth that you attract.

4. I can’t be trusted with money.

If you have filed bankruptcy, accumulated significant debt, or took a big financial risk and failed, chances are you decided that you can’t be trusted with money. If you’ve formed this belief then all of your choices will unconsciously be to keep your bank account small. The truth is that you can learn how to be good with money. But if you unconsciously believe you can’t be trusted with it, you will always find ways to make it then lose it – fast!

In my MoneyDNA™ program, I help people dissolve their blocks to creating success while developing strong wealth attraction and management skills. Until you dissolve your sabotaging beliefs you probably won’t want to learn how to be better with money.

5. No one will pay this much for my offerings.

There is a fascinating phenomenon buried deep in our psyche. If we won’t spend money on it, on some level we believe that no one else will either. If you aren’t charging enough for your services you probably haven’t ever been willing to invest the equivalent in yourself. Deep down inside you don’t get how someone would pay what you’ve been unwilling to invest in the past. Then, unwittingly, we decide for others what they are willing to spend. You immediately discount or offer a lower price without ever giving the prospect a chance to say yes to your full fee.

You have basically decided for your prospect what they are willing to pay – based on your limited consciousness.

Here’s the good news. All of these beliefs are simply a limiting decision you made that can be reversed. In order for you to prosper and achieve great things beyond what you ever thought was possible you’ll need to make three new decisions:

1. You deserve to have huge success doing what you love most. You just have to be willing to do what works and stop doing what doesn’t.

2. Your ideal prospects can and will pay big money to have their needs met (especially if it can happen fast.) You just have to know who they really are and how to align your offerings with their search.

3. Money is just a tool to make things happen. The more money you learn to attract the faster you can make a bigger impact on this planet.

I hope you’ll join me and the thousands of entrepreneurs who are ready to grow beyond their wildest dreams and shift out of those old beliefs into ones that will support you in achieving unlimited impact, wealth and success.

Melanie Benson Strick, known as America’s Leading Authority on Optimum Performance, has a gift for guiding fast-paced, overwhelmed, driven entrepreneurs to thrive in their small business. With over 11 years mentoring thought leaders and big thinking entrepreneurs, Melanie is liberator – uncovering costly breakdowns and de-railers while re-energizing profits– ultimately freeing the entrepreneur to do more of what they do best.

Melanie has been on faculty with StomperNet as their delegation expert, spoke on stages across the globe, is co-author of Entrepreneur.com’s Start Up Guide to Starting an Information Marketing Business and has her success tips featured in magazines such as AmExpOPEN, Woman’s Day and the LA Times. Melanie is a proud lifestyle enthusiast and spends her free time in search of the best spas and beaches in the world.

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Is that G word getting in the way of your goals?

Is that G word getting in the way of your goals?
Where ever your guilt originates from, finding the root cause will help you uncover the reasons behind your self sabotaging methods which will effect every area of your life including reaching your goals.

You see all our memories , thoughts, feelings and emotions get all bundled up together, our conscious mind stores  all these like for like experiences together to save us the hassle of processing them. If you can imagine your brain like a huge storage unit and every time we expereince an emotion, feeling or thought that will be stored as memory in our storage facility.

So Guilt will have its own designated area, lets make it a green area where everything we experience and associate with guilt will trigger all those memories to come to the fore. I always think of my brain activity as loads of little men being called to atttention- “Come on lads, we need reinforcements, this is a case of severe guilt were dealing with” I’m guilty of using blue to highlight the colour green a moment ago and that would of triggered a response in your brain to acknowledge that. This happens instantaneus so usually you won’t notice unless you have awareness of your thought patterns.

So once the guilt trigger is activated, it could just be over a minor thing, the guilt section of your brain storage unit  gets flooded with all the memories associated with guilt, providing you with more “evidence” and “proof” why you should feel guilty. This happens with every single emotion we feel. First we have a thought then we experience a feeling then the full emotion. For a thought to turn into a feeling we must hold that  same thought for a while, then we begin feeling it . Once we feel it and hold onto that feeling it causes an emotional response in our bodies. think butterflies in your stomach, your face or neck going red,  for some people the colour drains from them, a headache – thes are the physical indicators of an emotional response.

3 clues that guilt is running your life

  1. Every time you find yourself reaching the next level of success a major life experience occurs to stop you progressing e.g illness, pregnancy, broken bones or injury
  2. Major Mummy Guilt – when you are working you feel guilty , when you are not you feel guilty
  3. Whenever you do or get something for yourself you need to justify it to yourself first

Benefits of Guilt 

  • Guilt works best to help us grow and mature when our behavior has been offensive or hurtful to others or ourselves.
  • Healthy guilt is telling us we need to do something different in order to repair relationships that are important to us
  • The feeling of guilt is trying to get our attention so that we can learn something from the experience. If we learn from our behavior, we’ll be less likely to do it again in the future.

How to change state from a negative to a more positive emotion
You just need to replace the thought with a slightly better one. If you think of your thoughts on a scale of 1-10 (10 being the worst you can feel) If you are feeling a 10 ( really strong negative emotion, like guilt for no reason) replace it with a feeling of 9 ( still feels bad but not as bad) then carry on replacing the thought until you’re neutral then make yourself a cup of tea and it’ll all be alright.

3 signs that you may be giving your Power Away and How to get it back

  1. Everything that happens in your life that you don’t want is someone else’s fault –  be it your parents, teachers , old boss, an ex or whoever or what ever, if you are holding on to the hurt you are giving your power to the past and allowing it to influence your present. When we blame others we are putting the responsibility of our feelings on them.
  2. You are people pleasing, putting everyone else needs first, not feeling worthy of their love or that they will accept you for who you are. Hiding your feelings and putting on a show that everything is great when inside you are falling apart. Not being true to YOU
  3. Not believing in yourself or accepting yourself. How you feel about yourself is an indicator of how much power you hold. Feel great about yourself warts and all = standing in your power. Feel C.R.A.P about yourself is an indication that you are giving your power away.


How to get it back Having boundaries in place , not walls. Having healthy boundaries comes from feeling good about ourselves “No One Can Make You Feel Bad About Yourself Without Your Permission” what thoughts came into your head when you read that sentence…………… taking responsibility for our own feelings and reactions, we can master our Ability to Respond rather react to others.

Once we have awareness of our feelings, our triggers we are in a much more powerful place. We realise we have a choice in how we feel and it up to us to decide if we want to feel good or bad.

Those who respond with anger ( something I work really hard on, as at times I’ll react without thinking when its someone I really care about, hits a sore point in me & bang I’m off, exploding over something minor, I could easily blame my parents as its a learned behaviour but in that moment its my choice) don’t want to feel the pain in their bodies so they externalise it and direct it at someone else.

The signs can be rubbing the chest or neck which is a self soothing mechanism that we do to ease the pain. Having an awareness of our behaviour and triggers helps us recognise when we are not been true to ourselves.


Lesson in Life

A wise man sat in the audience and cracked a joke. Everybody laughs like crazy. After a moment, he cracks the same joke again. This time, less people laughed. He cracked the same joke again and again. When there was no laughter in the crowd He smiled and said: You can’t laugh at the same joke again and again, but why do you keep crying over the same thing over and over again ?

Calling all lonelypreneurs – throwing you a lifeline

I so excited today to be interviewing my business coach Tricia Dycka. I first met Tricia last year through a mastermind group we were both in , and took her up on her invitation to write an article for her online magazine ‘Its All About Yes’ . I am now a regular contributor and get to work with a great team of women with a diverse range of businesses. Tricia is the creator and editor in chief of this great resource for women, either getting started in their own business, thinking about it or struggling to make it work , juggling all the demands on their time. Tricia is one the most intuitive people I know and has a gift which is very rare and unique and makes her stand out as the gifted coach she is. She is an amazing listener and is the first port of call for lonelypreneurs who find themselves without support when getting started in self employment.

Tell me a little about you , your lifestyle and what you are passionate about? I love being me! I am passionate about discovering who I am and more about how I can change the world one person at a time.  I am a lover of coffee, chocolate, wine, most things sci fy, being present, my life and most definitely the hubby.

So tell me about your business, what is Tricia Dycka all about? Sometimes it is very difficult to see the path you are on or the direction you are meant to be going in while dealing with emotional baggage of disappointment, anger, and of frustrations from getting zero results.

I am intuitive guide who can helps business owners change direction, see their next step and guide them forward to their dreams.

What lead you to making the decision of creating your own business? I was hitting brick walls.  Getting zero results from all my efforts which I might add is very disappointing.  I was becoming very frustrated and angry.  It was then I realized I was on the wrong path and needed a course correction.  Once I was able to see this, doors were opening everywhere.  I was receiving messages telling me knock, knock this is where you are supposed to be.

Has there always been a burning desire inside you to create this or did it your business evolve from your original idea? This has evolved over time and I know as I seek to understand my path even further it will still evolve.  I will still be an intuitive guide but I know there will be other gifts revealed during this process.

What did/do you find to be the most challenging part of your business?  In the beginning the most challenging part was failure.When I first became an entrepreneur I decided that being a financial representative was what I wanted to do.  I failed at it miserably.  Took me a while to admit it even had a slight melt down.  Today I look at it as learning experiences.  Opening me up to be where I am today.

What have you learned about yourself during the process of setting up your business? I am a fighter.  I believe in myself and that I am here to make a difference.  There were definitely times going through the emotional baggage I was ready to quit but something kept me going.  Some piece of knowledge that I would learn all I needed to know and it would be a worthwhile journey.


What advice would you give someone considering starting their own business?1.Do not lose hope or lose sight of your goals.

2.Challenge yourself every day.

3.Push past your boundaries.
4.Persevere in the face of fear.
5.Believe in yourself and that you can do it.
6.Give everything except up.

What products and services do you provide ? I provide coaching services for those business owners who are completely stuck in overwhelm.  They realize that they are not on the right path and are questioning what their next step is.  They are getting motivated and understanding they are  meant to be and do so much more

Thank you so much Tricia, you’re truly and inspiration and so generous with sharing your gifts and knowledge to the world particularly all the women who you support on their journey to making a difference .


Are you a solo-preneur, new business owner or on the edge of making the leap to self-employment? Go to www.triciadycka.com and Learn where you are on the BS Stress Test

Next week I’ll be interviewing Author, London fashion stylist and entrepreneur Tanesha Westcarr. Release your icon. Tanesha combines great fashion advice with heartfelt motivation to step into the woman you were born to be……


Where it all started – my journey to my purpose

Published on: 7 Mar 2012 I’m very excited to be interviewing today’s WOW (Wednesday’s Outstanding Woman) Happiness Coach Sue Jaques Weston. Sue is the lady responsible for getting me started in discovering my purpose and through working with her i’ve been able to overcome many of the blocks many of us experience when we’re starting to play bigger. Sue helped me overcome my fear of success and through a simple technique she was able to get straight to the root of what had previously kept rooted in self sabotage every time I began making progress. 

Tell me a little about you , your lifestyle and what you are passionate about?  I am happily married to Ian and have 2 lovely sons at university and a beautiful daughter  who’s now at senior school. I love my life and I am so passionate about helping people get the life they deserve. I play an active role in my community and facilitate many events which bring everyone together.

So tell me about your business, what is Sue Jaques Life Coaching all about? My business is all about helping people to find direction in their lives. I help them to realize and achieve their goals by making small changes and show them how they can feel more positive by looking at their life in a different way. I use various NLP techniques and hypnotherapy to help my clients make the changes that enable them to move on and get the life they desire.  I see people on a one to one basis and run Life Coaching courses for groups of people.

What lead you to making the decision of creating your own business? I went on a life coaching course at my daughter’s school and it was here that I decided I would like to become a life coach and hypnotherapist. I have been freelance for most of my working life so it made perfect sense to create my own business.

Has there always been a burning desire inside you to create this or did  your business evolve from your original idea? I have always had the desire to help people and make a difference. I also enjoy talking to people and finding out what makes them who they are. Being a life coach really does tick all the boxes for me, I really love my job.

What did/do you find to be the most challenging part of your business? The most challenging part of my job is attracting enough clients to make my business viable. Also a lot of clients wish to see me after work and at weekends when I have limited appointments.

What have you learned about yourself during the process of setting up your business? I have learned that I can deal with difficult situations easily by using the tools I teach my clients to use. I definitely practise what I preach!

What advice would you give someone considering starting their own business? I would advise them to research the field they are setting up in. Charging the right price is really important. If you don’t charge enough people won’t value you and if you are too expensive people won’t come to you. The most important advice I would give is to believe in yourself.

What products and services do you provide ? I provide NLP Life Coaching, Hypnotherapy and TimeLine Therapy

What is the greatest success story for your business? I’m not sure if I’m allowed to say this but 3 years ago a lovely lady called Mary came along to one of my Life Coaching courses. She was a star pupil and continued to attend the course for 6months. I asked her if she would help me run the course. She agreed to this and decided to train as an NLP practitioner. I have watched her grow and flourish. She is now running courses in her own right for her local Council and has a huge following on the internet. I am so proud of her and all she has achieved.

For details on how you could benefit from working  with Sue go to   http://www.suejaqueslifecoaching.co.uk to book a session

Thank you Sue for sharing your gifts and facilitating change for so many.  Over the 3 years we worked together we were able to change the lives of 100’s of women, who now step into their power and are paving their own paths to happiness and fulfillment of their purpose.

Next week I’ll be interviewing  Sarah Centrella  who’ll be sharing about her personal journey as a suddenly single mum starting life over at 33 with 3 small children, jobless, and broke. In 2 years she managed to work her way up the corporate ladder to a VP/Director role for a legal software company and now is a writer and author of the motivational blog Thoughts.Stories.Life. And the soon to be published memoir by the same name.